Preparing for Marriage

28 Jan

This morning, Jordan and I got up bright and early for our very first session of pre-marital counseling.

A few weeks ago, we both took an online questionnaire individually, and knew that it would be a big point of discussion in our initial meeting. We discussed our personality types, our communication styles, and other various aspects of our relationship. And I’m not gonna lie, the Communication Studies major in me was loving all of the communication talk.

The therapist analyzed a good portion of our questionnaires, but it was most encouraging to hear that we both have a realistic expectation of marriage. He said he was surprised to learn this since we’re fairly young and have never lived together. But…we’re both first-born, realistic, practical people, so I guess I shouldn’t be too surprised!

We came home with a packet of communication strategies and some activities that we’re supposed to work through before we go back again. We still have one or two more sessions to go, and as cheesy as it sounds, I think it’s going to help was grow a lot closer. Already, we shared some things in that hour and a half meeting that we might have never known about each other otherwise. Who knew therapy would be so therapeutic ;)?

On a different note, it’s my dad’s birthday today, so I’m off to get some cardio in before we celebrate tonight! Have a happy weekend!

If you’re married, did you/how did you prepare for marriage?

How do you feel about therapy/counseling?





11 Responses to “Preparing for Marriage”

  1. laiusky85 January 28, 2012 at 4:41 pm #

    We personally didn’t go to counseling. My husband is very private, so I knew that sharing our “stuff” with a third person would make him uncomfortable. That is why we decided to buy a couple of pre-marital books. We read a little bit every night and then discussed it and stated our opinions. It was kind of counseling, but just between the two of us.

  2. mrssays January 28, 2012 at 4:55 pm #

    We went to several sessions of pre-marital counseling with our then Pastor. It opened a continuing dialogue for us that has continued through our 11 year marriage.

  3. HollieisFueledByLOLZ January 28, 2012 at 7:05 pm #

    Wow I never really thought about that before until you brought it up a few posts ago. I don’t really know what I’ll do but I think it couldn’t be a bad thing I guess.

  4. Kristen @ notsodomesticated January 29, 2012 at 4:16 pm #

    Good for you guys!! We did pre-marital counseling both through my church and his (mine in Florida and his in Ohio haha … long story). We also read several Christian marriage books, and discussed the content together. I HIGHLY recommend any type of premarital counseling or marital books before taking that big step! 🙂

  5. Mattie @ Comfy and Confident January 30, 2012 at 11:16 am #

    I am not married, but I think counseling is a great thing to do. It is a good thing to make sure you are on the same page before you make the big jump!
    Oh the process of getting married. All my friends are going through the process and there is so much more to do than you ever think there will be.

  6. Laura @ LauraLikesDesign January 30, 2012 at 11:34 am #

    We took that test with our pastor, too! It really helped a lot to meet with him to discuss family history, our views on things, and discuss topics we didn’t even think of!

  7. di @ life of di. March 30, 2012 at 11:10 am #

    Marty and I were given this in our premarital counseling too! The results have been surprisingly accurate so far – it’s actually kind of cool.

    • Emily @ Perfection Isn't Happy March 30, 2012 at 1:45 pm #

      That’s good to know! We still have one more session with the counselor, but it’s been really interesting so far.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: