Archive | April, 2012

My First Bridal Shower {Recap}

30 Apr

My first bridal shower is over, and I’m a little sad. Despite the rainy and cold weather, it was a beautiful day. To make me feel better about the rain, my cousin texted me on the morning of the shower to reassure me that showers on the day of a shower are good luck ;).

That morning, my mom, sisters and I arrived a little early, and entered the room just in time to see Jordan’s aunt and cousin setting up the cake and balloons.

Cute, right?? I really had no idea what to expect since Jordan’s mom and sisters took care of everything, but I loved all of the little touches of pink — very “me.”

The shower was held at Hollyhock Hill Restaurant in Indianapolis, which I learned has been around since the early 1900s! It had a very cozy atmosphere, and the food was wonderful.  We had a choice of chicken or fish, but they even created a special plate for one of my sisters, who is vegetarian.

For the first part of the shower, we ate, mingled, and ate some more.

I didn’t take any pictures of the food, but lunch included the entree (fish for me),  green beans, mashed potatoes, biscuits with apple butter (so good!), salad with pickled beets (also one of my favorites), and cake and ice cream for dessert. I was definitely well-fed by the time we got to opening presents.

I must admit, I was still a little nervous when it came time to open presents. I didn’t know everyone’s names (even though we were wearing name tags, I couldn’t see all of them from where I was sitting), and sometimes I just had to say “thank you” to the crowd after opening a gift instead of looking at that person directly, which felt a little awkward. Fortunately, my mom told me later that most people were talking amongst themselves and barely paying attention to me, plus Jordan’s sisters (also bridesmaids) and his cousin (one of our flower girls) sat up there with me, so I wasn’t alone.

We received a lot of items that we’d registered for, but some of my favorite gifts were the creative, personalized ones. Jordan’s cousin gave me a box of thank you notes, and had everyone address an envelope as they walked into the shower. When I got home, I realized that all of the envelopes are stamped, so all I have to do is write the thank you notes and send them out — such a creative and thoughtful gift! My mom also surprised me with a shirt that says, “The Future Mrs. Jordan (‘s last name)” with our wedding date underneath it. It’s so cute, I kind of want to wear it to work this week :). And my friends, knowing how much I love ice cream, created a whole gift bag of ice cream essentials, including an ice cream maker, ice cream scooper and ice cream bowls. Of course, I am so grateful for, and excited about, everything we received. I can’t wait to put it all in our future home!

After I finished opening presents, people started to leave, and Jordan arrived just in time to load everything into his SUV. It was a beautiful shower, and it’s hard to believe that in just 2 1/2 months everyone will be there to support us on our wedding day! Although I’m sad that this shower is over, I have another one to look forward to in three weeks.

I just don’t want the time to go by too fast…

If you had a shirt that said ‘The Future Mrs…,”and a casual dress code, would you wear it to work?

What’s the most creative bridal shower gift that you’ve given/heard of/seen on Pinterest?

My First Bridal Shower

27 Apr

This week has felt so surreal; I don’t even know where to start! First of all, I loved reading all of your comments on my name change post. You’ve given me so many things to think about! Then there was the moment I spent with Bethenny Frankel, err, the day I got to meet her. I have photos to show you and stories to tell you, but that post is going to have to wait until next week (I know, I know, but it’ll be worth the wait ;)).

In the meantime, I’ve got something a little more time sensitive to talk about…my first bridal shower!

Tomorrow at 11:30 a.m., I will be arriving at the first of my two bridal showers. It’s hard to believe that it’s already here — it’s hard to believe that I’m getting married in 2 1/2 months! This shower is being thrown by Jordan’s sisters (and his mom, since they’re only 14 :)), at a restaurant in Indianapolis. I would be lying if I said my nerves aren’t starting to kick in. While I love Jordan’s family and have known them for almost 3 1/2 years, there will be several people at the shower that I’ve never met before. I enjoy being the center of the attention sometimes, but when a whole event is for me, I get nervous!

The present opening part is my biggest worry. I can handle lunch and mingling, but when I have to open those presents and all eyes are on me, I’m afraid I’ll be self-conscious. I get nervous opening presents on Christmas morning with my immediate family, so how am I going to be with people I don’t know? I’m not very good at expressing myself in these situations. Even if I love something, I don’t give a super excited reaction — it’s just how I am. I’ve heard other bloggers share this worry, so I feel better knowing that I’m not alone :).

The good news is, thanks to Nordstrom Rack, I’ve found a dress to wear. I tried on 13 (yes, 13) dresses, and chose the one that flattered my figure the most (apparently elastic waistbands and flouncy tops are in this season, and they don’t flatter me at all!). What’s even better, is that I got a great discount.

I’ll post pictures after the shower, but I promise it’s not camo like it looks!

This week has been full of exciting changes, and I can’t wait to share them with you when I can. Until then, have a great Friday and enjoy your weekend!

If you’re married, did you get nervous before your bridal shower?

Have you ever been to a bridal shower? What’d you enjoy the most about it?

 

 

Best. Day. Ever

25 Apr

Details to come.

The Name Change Debate

24 Apr

When I knew that I was going to marry Jordan (before we even got engaged), I just assumed I’d take his name. I was one of those girls — I started using his name when making dinner reservations, a long time ago. I kind of liked knowing that his name would one day be mine — that we would be a family. It just seemed like a natural step to me.

But now that the big day is getting closer, I’m not so sure anymore.

I’ve had my name for nearly 24 years. Changing it overnight seems a little unreal to me. To make my decision even more difficult, I don’t have any brothers, so no one in my immediate family will be carrying on my last name. And I find that kind of sad.

So what do I do? I know that I want to at least have Jordan’s last name as a part of my name, for the sake of our future children. I’ve worked with a lot of children, and I do know some families that decide to keep two different last names — it can get a little confusing, even just for school records. So, I have three options:

1. First, there’s the hyphenated version. My full, legal name would be hyphenated, but in conversation, I would use Jordan’s last name. No one would really know the difference except for me. Plus, if I’m a famous writer one day ;), I’d like to have part of my original name in the byline. I know that sounds strange, but it’s the name I started writing with, and part of who I am.

2. Then there’s the two middle names option. I believe Julie from Peanut Butter Fingers did this. Instead of having one middle name, I would now have two. I’d still get to keep my last name, but I’d also be taking on Jordan’s name as my own. This option seems a little simpler, as the only place I’d really use my current last name is on my driver’s license and social security card. At the same time, I would know that my last name is still there, and I find that comforting.

3. And then there’s the last option. Change my name completely, and my current last name would just become my maiden name. I’m feeling less enthused about this option.

Though I have my own opinions on the issue, it’s important to remember that Jordan’s feelings matter too. When I first told him my thoughts, I could tell he was hurt. We’re both a little old fashioned, and I think we both assumed we’d never even be having this conversation. After talking about it and explaining how I feel, Jordan is now more understanding. I was never going to not take his name at all, and keeping my maiden name as a middle name does not mean that I love him less — I just want to keep part of my current identity.

Remember when we were in junior high, and used to scribble the last name of our crush all over our notebooks (or was that just me?)… well, real life is much more complicated, isn’t it ;)? My last name is part of who I am. It’s what I identify with. And to get rid of it in a matter of minutes? I’m not sure I want to.

I’m still debating what to do. A debate that I never thought I’d be having with myself. I know I’ll make my decision and feel confident about it… in time.

If you’re married, how did you decide what to do with your name?

If you’re single, what do you think you’ll do in the future?

 

 

Monday Morning

23 Apr

To those of you who can hop out of bed on a Monday morning, smile on your face and workout clothes all ready to go, I envy you. I am not one of those people. I hit the snooze button twice, consider skipping a shower for more sleep, and lay in bed stressing about the things I have to do this week. I long for Sunday afternoon, when I was happily eating an ice cream cone at the mall — my biggest worry, to get sprinkles or not to get sprinkles.

I got sprinkles.

Of course, reality eventually sets in. I get up, make my bed, take a shower and make my oatmeal. I pack my lunch and get my laptop bag ready to go. I dry my hair halfway, swipe on some mascara, and make myself somewhat presentable. And then it is time to go.

Though I wish it was Sunday morning, when I was still in bed, I know it’s time to face the day. And I do.

But it’d be a lot more fun if I could face it with some sprinkles. Maybe in my coffee…

How do you feel on Monday mornings?

Sprinkles, or no sprinkles?

Friday Facts

20 Apr

1. On Wednesday night, my dad and I went drag racing for the first time this season. I believe I’ve mentioned it on the blog before, but if you didn’t know, my dad has a race car and races it for fun on occasion. I, too, used to race my street car, and this year, my dad’s going to let me go out in his! The track was ridiculously crowded and unorganized on Wednesday since the season just started, so I didn’t get home until after 11:00 p.m. (way past my bedtime ;)). But it was fun to spend a night with my dad, and totally worth it.

2. One nice thing about my job is that I can work from home when needed. Instead of taking yesterday off because of exhaustion (not just because of Wednesday night, the exhaustion’s been building for weeks), I decided to work from home. I slept in until 7:45, was working by 8:15, and was done and ready to work out by 4:15. Not having to commute two hours a day made my life much easier…and I even spent a couple of those hours working outside! There’s nothing like slathering on the SPF 30 and sitting in the sun in the middle of the April. Loved it.

3. My first bridal shower is one week from tomorrow. I’ve gotten into the bad habit of checking our online registries to see if people have been marking things off, and now that the showers are getting closer, I really need to stop. Someone please block me from viewing Target and Bed, Bath & Beyond until the end of May, okay? Thanks.

4. I am not sure that I want to completely change my last name after I get married. This one probably deserves its own post, so more on it later.

5. Last night, I did a Barre3 workout for the first time in months, and it felt so good. If you’ve never tried Sadie Lincoln’s program, you should. You will hurt the next day. And you will love it.

6. In the near future, I plan to make my blog self-hosted, and that might include a name change. I’m not in college anymore, and it’s time to let this blog reflect where I am in my life. Exciting changes to come :).

7. I am really craving Mexican food right now. This is not unusual, as I eat it (at least) once a week. Jordan and I are picking up my new laptop tonight, and I think I know where we’ll be going to dinner beforehand…

8. Tomorrow night, Jordan and I are meeting some friends to go ice skating. It should be interesting, considering I haven’t been in over two years. We actually had our second date at the same rink we’re going to tomorrow. Ah, the memories.

9. I am running a 5K in two weeks, and I have not even started to train. I guess I should really get going on that. Like, two weeks ago.

10. I’m kind of wishing that I could work from home again today, but I have an even better reason to drive in to work. My sister is meeting me for lunch at Whole Foods! Bring on the $9 salad ;).

What are you doing this weekend?

What are you craving right now?

I’m a Big Girl Now

17 Apr

Remember when my laptop crashed, two months ago? Well…I’ve finally taken the plunge. Don’t mind the fact that I’m still using a flip phone from 1999 2009 (that purchase will just have to wait), I now have a brand new laptop waiting for me at Best Buy. In the nine months that I’ve been working full-time, it’s my first real “big girl” purchase.

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I know it’s not a car or a house, but it feels kind of good knowing that I paid for it by myself. Fingers crossed that this laptop lasts a long time. I had a ton of issues with my first laptop, a Dell Inspiron, but I’ve read nothing but good things about Samsung’s models. I’m picking it up on Friday!

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On a completely different note, a couple of weeks ago, I was nominated for a Liebster Award from two lovely ladies from Fit Fun in Third and This Bride’s Joyride. Basically, the Liebster Award is awarded to bloggers who have less than 200 followers, by other bloggers who also have a smaller following, to help spread the word of new blogs.

There are four conditions that each recipient must satisfy when accepting the award:

1. Choose 5 up-and-coming blogs with less than 200 followers to award the Liebster to.

2. Show your thanks to the blogger who gave you the award by linking back to them.

3. Post the award on your blog. List the bloggers you are giving the award to with links to their sites. Leave comments on their blog so they know about the award.

4. Share 5 random facts about yourself that people don’t know about you.

I’m not exactly sure how to tell how many followers each blog has, so I apologize if you have more than 200 followers (I’m sure some of you do!).

I award:

Molly @ This Life is Sparkling

Carrie @ Lift Eat Repeat

Laura @ Laura Likes Design

Danica @ It’s Progression Not Perfection

Hilary @ My Crafted Life

As far as random facts go…

1. I don’t wear my engagement ring to the gym. I’m paranoid that I’ll scratch it while weight training, that it’ll fly off during Zumba, or that it’ll get stuck when my fingers swell. Am I the only one?

2. I have seen every episode from all 10 seasons of ‘Friends,’ and I’m slowly working my way through all of the seasons of ‘How I Met Your Mother.’ The more I watch ‘How I Met Your Mother,’ the more I realize how similar it is to ‘Friends.’ And it’s so addicting. I love Marshall and Lily…

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3. In 88 days, I will be married. I can’t believe we’re down to double digits!

4. I could eat sushi and Mexican every day of the week (just not at the same time). I never get sick of it.

5. In college, I taught myself how to play the guitar. Unfortunately, I haven’t kept up with it, and now my guitar just sits in my room. And I really need to change the strings. Anyone happen to know how to do that (because I don’t…)?

Now it’s your turn; tell me something about you!

What was your first “big girl” purchase?

What kind of computer do you have?